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The Futility of Trying to Change Another

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Most of you are working on personal change -so you are aware of areas you wish to grow in and are actively becoming your best self. As such, you\'ve experienced how change can sometimes take longer than you think, can come about in a different way than you anticipated, and how it can sometimes feel like a stop-n-start activity (with times when you\'re progressing and other times when you feel stuck or like you\'ve relapsed).

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"Consider how hard it is to change yourself, and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others." (Jacob M. Braude)

Most of you are working on personal change -so you are aware of areas you wish to grow in and are actively becoming your best self. As such, you've experienced how change can sometimes take longer than you think, can come about in a different way than you anticipated, and how it can sometimes feel like a stop-n-start activity (with times when you're progressing and other times when you feel stuck or like you've relapsed).

Knowing how much focus and effort it takes to change yourself, why would anyone undertake the task of changing another?! And yet, in the US society, women are typically led to believe that if they can just find a good man, they can then change him into 'Mr. Right'.

Paradoxically, the typical US man believes that the woman will always remain just the way she was when he met her (that she'll never change). So when she grows and changes, he wants her to go back to the way she was when they met.

She tries to make him change, and he tries to make her not change. As you can predict, both of these scenarios are doomed to fail. Unfortunately, I've seen this far too often.

So what's the cure for this disease? It comes down to two things: 1) love your partner unconditionally - in other words love them for who they are right now (not for who they could be or who they used to be), and 2) spend your energy working on yourself and let your partner do the same (it's not your place to make suggestions of things your partner could work on).

When you meet someone and are dating, take the time to really get to know that person well. Meet their friends (recent and long-time), get to know their family, meet their co-workers, and be certain to share lots of mundane, everyday experiences together so you can tell how this person really is in the world.

Date for a while; don't rush into anything. It's really important that you know all aspects of your partner (and vice versa) BEFORE you commit to each other. By doing this, you will be able to unconditionally love and accept your partner for who they are, in their entirety. And that is the key to a happy relationship - truly seeing, knowing, accepting and loving everything about the other.

Another helpful technique is to stop thinking that your way is the right way. Instead, shift your thinking to "there is no one right way; every way has validity". When you make this shift, you won't be inclined to insist that others do things your way, and you'll be more receptive to learning new ways of doing things and seeing things. In other words, you'll have an open mind.

As Colonel Potter said on M*A*S*H, "Just remember, there's a right way and a wrong way to everything, and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way."

If you want to change the world, change yourself. For that is the one place you have any influence. And the change you make in yourself will impact others in many seen and unseen ways.

Trying to change another is futile, but working to change yourself is miraculous!

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